April 5, 2013

• Deplorable Men

  I work with one of thee most disgusting and miserable people I have ever met. He is about 6’5 and weighs nearly 300 pounds and has the ugliest, most deplorable attitude that fits his appearance. He’s like that wretched giant in the old story books that everyone is afraid of but somehow ended up marrying his tiny little high school sweetheart and they have a horribly dysfunctional marriage and three totally horrible children together. The whole situation is just sad and I’m constantly trying to figure out WHY God would have this man and his ugliness work for our company. He isn’t appreciative. He treats people he works with like crap. He has no respect for ANYONE and he thinks he can talk a bunch of crap to people and then not understand why you’re pissed at him.  Last Friday there was a situation where he called the office about 20 minutes before we closed and asked a stupid question…

  “What happens if I cant get to the office by 5 to get my check”? to which I stupidly answered with a question “you don’t get it until Monday”??

  Now, had this guy just said “Hey Shannon listen, I’m about 20 minutes out, I know it’s almost five but would you mind hanging out so I can get my check”? None of what happened next would have happened. He seriously WENT OFF on me with every other word being an F bomb, about how “he needs his f*cking check, he has NO f*cking money, he literally has $1.15 in the bank and if he doesn’t get his f*cking check, his family is going to starve”. Now, you and I both know that they would not have starved over the course of the weekend and it should be pretty obvious that his problems should not have turned into mine but because this guy is a gigantic dickhead and he’s use to bullying people into getting what he wants he felt he could go there with me and everything was just going to be cherry.

  That was until we had an inter office meeting this morning. 

  Everything went down smoothly and then my boss started talking about being respectful of each other. He mentioned how last week he had called me a bitch ( I know, real nice example right) and how that was wrong “BUT you know, I heard the way you spoke to Karl and then how Karl spoke to you” and I butted in “Well at least  you said it to my face” to which the snickering coming from the other guys who work here suddenly stopped. Listen, I know that I can be a bitch, I don’t deny that for a second. I am one of two females who work in construction with all these men. If I am sweet and innocent they walk all over me, so there is an extent to which I feel I need to hold my ground and let them know I am not one to be messed with, in case you weren’t sure. Most of the guys have been here a while and understand that but this disgusting guy is new, and he isn’t fully aware… That is until what happened next. 

  My boss kind of put him on blast about a situation he had with one of our suppliers and how he chewed that lady out because he felt as if he wasn’t receiving good customer service by her not having an answer to why the manufacturer hadn’t shipped his crap by now. She didn’t know! She was sort of in the middle and he let her have it for that and our boss sort of let him know that wasn’t okay to which he responded ” I don’t think I said anything wrong at all”. Famous last words. Then the boss says “and I know you and Shannon had an exchange of words last week” and that was when all hell was unleashed. He started talking in his loud giant voice about what he doesn’t appreciate and then I started saying that I didn’t care, what you were asking of me (to leave his check under a f*cking rock outside or something) wasn’t how we do things around here. I bobbed and weaved my head at him, I remained pretty calm but he was clearly not use to my disrespect toward him AT ALL and said that he “didn’t appreciate the way I was shaking my head at him”. I laughed.

  The thing of it is, I cant help but wonder really, what kind of MAN thinks in his right mind that it is acceptable to cuss at and yell at a women? Why would he, at 6’4 300# think that not only is he intimidating to some by his size but that he can use his size to bully the rest of the world around him and especially women? I have seen this man throw his sons up against walls and cuss them out at Christmas parties. I have watched his only daughter repeatedly tweet about how horrible he is and how “if he would just go outside and smoke weed he would stop being such a dick”. I know without a doubt that this is one troubled man, I just don’t understand how one becomes such a piece of crap of a person? 

  He didn’t get very far with me at the end of the meeting. I stood up to him in front of everyone and he hated it. He thought I would be impressed with his ill fated apology and I wasn’t. I’m a woman, don’t treat me like one of the guys out on the field and don’t talk to me like one either, I am not okay with that and really, there is no reason for it. The excuse that “well, that’s just how he is” doesn’t FLY with me. It didn’t fly with me when he treated my son in law like shit until he quit this job and it certainly wont fly with me in how he treats me today. Maybe you can talk to your wife that way or your kids or everyone else, I don’t know but if you think I’m going to sit back and take your “intimidation” you’re sadly mistaken. What is worse is I know FAR too much garbage on him and his lifestyle at home that he has foolishly entrusted me with over time and as much as I  would hate to hold that against him some day, his actions toward me and the rest of the employees working here will really determine whether or not we offer mandatory drug testing on a quarterly basis. I am just saying.

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